Love can be hell. It is not an accident which moves us to love the wrong person or to drive the right person away over and over again, yet most of us remain unaware of how to escape this perpetual cycle of bad relationships.
In this essential follow-up to Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self Dr. Elan Golomb shows how hateful, rejecting, or indifferent parents leave children frozen, continually seeking love that seldom comes. Whether we mimic the parental behavior in adulthood or remain frozen, feeling that we are worthless and do not deserve happiness, Unloved Again guides us through how and why we sabotage healthy relationships and perpetuate unhealthy relationships.
Through psychological study, patients' stories, and her own experience, Dr. Golomb guides us through the harm that narcissistic and otherwise damaging and unloving parents can have on our adult love lives. Dr. Golomb shares her own "Aha!" moment when she realized she could love and beloved and shares the resources to break our addiction to bad relationships and find the love that we truly deserve.
Unlike dating advice books, Unloved Again does not seek to treat symptoms of bad relationships, but identifies the root cause, the crux of emotional and psychological problems which underlie love's repeated failures. Only in addressing these deep-seated issues can we escape our frozen condition and uncover the secret to enjoying a happy and lasting love life.
This book is for anyone who has asked themselves any of the following:
- Why do I continually fall for the wrong person and drive the right type of person away?
- Why do my relationships quickly switch from blissful to tortured?
- Why do I find myself criticized unreasonably in every relationship?
- Why do I criticize my partner disproportionately?
- Why can't a find true love?
- Do I even deserve love?
