If you are an adoptee, have you felt alone in the world with no one to talk to; wondered how other adoptees deal with their emotions; or wondered WHY you were placed for adoption? If you are a birthparent, have you ever wondered how your child might feel towards you; what their life was like growing up; or how you would react if they ever showed up on your doorstep? If you are an adoptive parent, are you puzzled with how to deal with your child's feelings towards adoption but don't know what to say; thought about helping them search for their birth parents; or how you would handle the situation if they contacted their birth mom? If you are someone who knows someone who is adopted, have you ever been curious what it was like to be adopted; you don't know what to say to them about being adopted; or you don't know how to support them if they are searching? If you answered yes to any of the above questions, then this book, The Special Chosen One, is for you. An adopted woman's journey back to her roots. This memoir peers into the mind and emotions of an adoptee who wonders about her birth parents. The torment of being questioned by physicians as to your medical history, when all an adoptee can answer is, "I don't know." The eventual fear of hurting adoptive parents when deciding to search for birth parents. The difficult aspect of searching for records about yourself, but they are sealed forever. This book is helpful to all members of the adoption triad; the adoptee, adoptive parents and birth parents, or anyone thinking of adoption or in the process of adopting. This book brings forth the theme that adoptees are not alone. The author never knew another adoptee until age 24. Her self-imposed feelings of guilt were always associated with being adopted. What the author didn't know until later in life is that other adoptees went through the same emotions. Also included is valuable information and suggestions for adoptees, birth parents and adoptive parents, tips for beginning a search, other books recommended for reading, helpful links, and reading group questions.
About the Author: Susan Beckman is a Christian and a writer. Susan is an adoptee who searched and found both birth parents in 1978 and 1992. She was co-founder of a search and support group for adoptees, birth families and adoptive parents, Mother and Child Reunion. She has helped many people search and find each other. Susan has published 10 Critical Guidelines to Begin Searching for Your Birth Family and The Unforgettable Angel. She has published short stories in newsletters, booklets, newspapers, and magazines, such as Breakthrough Intercessor, Victory Herald, Living Stones News, Christian Citizen USA and City Light News. Susan was born and raised in Michigan and met her husband in high school in Ohio, where they married in 1973. They have lived in Florida since 1982. They have two daughters and four grandchildren. She is blessed to have them living nearby, giving her the pleasure to be actively involved and participate in their lives, both socially and spiritually. Susan lives in the country and enjoys decorating their home in old-fashioned farmhouse style. In addition to reading and writing, she enjoys Bible studies, quilting, candlemaking, herbology, cooking, canning, genealogy, crocheting, knitting, spinning and gardening.