Congratulations! Yes Congratulations! Do you know how many people go through mourning a loved one's loss, alone, without ever reaching out to find some help or advice? Some women close up alone to deal with their grief, others continue their days, trying to get back to a normal routine, when nothing is "normal" now! Some are afraid, or embarrassed, to ask for help, or reach out to someone who went through a similar experience. My husband died when I was 28 years old. I know what it's like when the word "widow" makes everyone freeze or creates a minute's worth of silence in the room. Once I was stopped by a police officer for not stopping at a stop sign, and when he saw my personal documents with my civil status as "widow", he froze and sent me on my way immediately. It's just a word! But a difficult word for everybody, even for ourselves.
After spending more than 20 years of trying to rediscover myself as a widow and overcoming grief, I can share with you some ways on not only surviving this phase, but thriving, yes! Because we only live once! We all know that. And the years that many people spend on grieving, are years they will never recover and live their lives. If I had learned some simple steps, and uncomplicated actions, to adapt to my daily life after my husband died, I know today I would have avoided many downfalls, and times of loneliness, and instead spent that time on getting back on the road to LIVING. On living life. We are not in any way forgetting our loved spouse, because what would they want for us, for you, for me? We know what they would want. They would want us to live our life because they know we all have a limited stay in this lifetime. Time is a limited resource.
So how do we move on after we have lost our loved spouse suddenly, and rebuild a new path to a new life? I'll share with you, small steps and everyday step by step actions that will help you not only move forward with your life, but create a brighter and fulfilled life, one that you deserve to be happy, to thrive in, to love and be loved.
