A Q&A Guide to Recovery From Narcissistic or Emotional Abuse features answers to 120+ commonly asked questions from victims struggling to escape and/or heal from abuse via R.H.'s popular blog, rachelhassonwrites.com.As victims of abuse, we share the same roots and have experienced the surprisingly specific cycle of abuse. United, we support one another as wounded healers. People outside of survivor communities won't understand what we've gone through.
Dysregulated as we are while healing from abuse, we come together as a club. It's not a club anyone would want to belong to, but here we are, and the support we offer through sharing our experiences is life changing. Together we stand, as they say.
Our path to healing from abuse is essentially a journey into understanding ourselves, casting away patterns of thought and behavior that we're only survival techniques. Being "nice" to prevent abuse isn't a personality. Your favorite color being brown because it was the color of a teddy bear you held as a child while frightened and alone, isn't a favorite color, it's the color of safety.
Humans can distinguish 10,000,000 colors. Brown is the color of chocolate and coffee, two of the very best things on Earth, but is it really your favorite color? Why not give the other 9,999,999 a consideration?
Life is rich with choices and discovering what we like, and love will be an adventure unlike any other.
So, buck up sunshine! Yes, some days will be unbearable with confusion, pain, and a startling lack of concentration but in the end, you'll gain the world. The world is you. Life will have meaning, and a meaningful life will get you through the tough times.
