Gossip is a sad and destructive fact of life. It damages reputations, ruins relationships, divides families and creates too much bad blood. This book examines gossip: the undeniable evil it does; the reasons why people gossip; ways of stopping it.I've noticed that gossip is one of those things that is so common in a relationship, in our conversations and in our cultural experience, that we hardly even notice it anymore. Unless of course we're the current victim of this whispery, yet pervasive and destructive enemy. Let me start off by saying that I have gossi-ped. I'm not proud of it. It's horribly wrong. And I have had to ask for forgiveness and repent both personally and publicly over speaking badly or out of turn about people that I love and knew well, or at times, barely knew at all. I hate that I have done this. And I hate when others gossip about me. Gossip sucks. Let me show you how to stop it.If gossip is such a mean and evil thing, why do so many people do it? Why don't they see the harm, and stop? After all, we would be very upset if someone else were to spoil our name. this book gives us the reason. Everyone at one point or the other has been directly involved or been affected by gossip.The truth is that every human is guilty in either ways: (1) By directly being involved in gossip. No human being can ever claim that he/she has never gossiped. (2) By listening to gossip. In fact, the bible likens gossip to a tasty dainty, the idea is, the same way man enjoys a tasty meal is the way our human nature enjoys listening to rumors/gossip. (Prov. 18:8). Both the gossiper and the listener have one thing in common. They all have interest in gossip. A gossiper will look for someone of like mind (who tell you sey gossip no dey look face?), the summary is: "He who partici-pates in gossip, either by actively spreading rumor about others or by passively listening to gossip are guilty. It takes a rumormonger to listen to gossip. If you are not a gossiper you will not be interested in gossip. (3) Lastly, everyone at one point have been the subject of gossip. There is nothing good about it; hence, there is no small gossip, even a casual back-talk about somebody can be very deadly and destructive. The result of gossip is always broken trust and hurt feelings. The recommendations/suggestions made in this book is in two dimensions and it is based on the assumption that all are guilty.(1). Personal commitment: How to deal with my own tendency to gossip. The best way to inspire change in others is to begin it yourself. (2) Extended Commitment: How to deal with gossip in others. Don't encourage it by even listening to it. Nip it in the bud.Let me use this opportunity to explain a particular lexicon. A person that gossips is called a gossip or a gossiper whichever one used is correct. I will be using it interchangeably.
About the Author: ABOUT THE AUTHOR Dr. Frank. C. Benjamin is a preacher of the word, called by God at the age of 13. God has been using him for decades to bring hope to a dyeing generation. Preaching the word with signs and wonders following. For academic qualification, he read creative arts Music major from The University of Lagos, (B.Th) Lighthouse Christian College. Arkansas USA, (Dip.Th). C. B. I., Brooklyn New York, (Dip.Th), P.I.B.S. (D.D.) New Zeal Bible College. English for professionals in the University of Lagos. He believes in the practical demonstration of the power of God. Presently the Pastor in charge of Christian Pentecostal Mission International, 11309 Bissonnet Street Houston Texas 77099 USA. The C.E.O of Alpha Digital Studio. An award winning recording company, which has worn so many awards of excellence in quality for Audio Visual Productions. He is the presenter of 'PATHFINDER', "Hour Of Miracle" a TV program, a multi-talented musician, a prolific writer and a motivational speaker. He lives in Houston Texas from where he coordinates his crusades to the whole world My philosophy is to make the people I interact with feel significant, confident and connected to whatever I do. I stand committed to not let the pain of life steal my joy and happiness to a fulfilling life. To live for a cause and not for applause. I live to express and not to impress. While it is said that self-praise is no recommendation. It is my opinion that no one knows you better than you know yourself and the only person that you should try to be better than, is the person you were yesterday. I believe that I am a straight forward, proactive, honest, trust-worthy and a gifted individual. My motto remains, to always assist and empower others to strive for excellence in achieving their ultimate goals. I am a strong believer in maintaining positive friendships. I am blessed and highly favored and I know it. I strive to live a humble life worthy of emulation and to practice what I preach, and I am good in what I do I love writing a lot hence I have written Poems, Dramas, Movies, and Musical compositions. I was born in Africa before migrating to America for greener pastures, and I grew up in the neighborhood that inspires me to write. I am inspired by God and the wonder of his works; I have a desire to use my creative writing to inspire people and change the ills in the society. Thus the purpose of most of my writing is to inspire and to give hope to a dying and decaying generation