Abuse can take many forms and you may not know you are being abused for a very long time. If you suspect abuse is at the heart of your relationship problems, you'll find all the answers to your questions in this book. It could save your life and your soul and you're sanity.
"I recommend this book to any woman or man who knows there is something that is not right but just can't put their finger on what is wrong. They are doing everything right, but yet everything feels wrong and to make matters worse they are to blame for everything...!....even though they are not..." Tracey Carter
YOU are worthwhile. You are NOT crazy. You are not alone. You deserve to know the truth.
"This book is truly wonderful. For I'm a women in a verbally abusive marriage and reading this book gives me hope that I will one day leave. This book will help anybody who is in or has been in the same situation, it can help guide you and help you to understand that abuse is not your fault, it is the abuser. Its a great read, ..I HIGHLY recommend this book." Theresa
Has the Real You Disappeared?
- Is there a problem in your relationship but you can't put your finger on its cause?
- Have you tried fixing yourself, thinking that if you could be a better wife then the problems would go away?
- Do you find yourself doing and saying things to your partner that you wish you could take back?
- Do you wonder if you are abusive to your husband or your children?
If You Ask Those Questions...
...then chances are you are not an abuser, but the victim of abuse in your marriage. You care if you hurt someone else, but it seems like your partner does not care one bit about your feelings.
Perhaps you are at the end of your rope as Kellie Jo Holly felt when she began the blog at the heart of this book. What can you do to fix things? What works and what doesn't work? You don't want to leave your marriage any more than Kellie did, but you just can't take the craziness anymore.
For almost 17 years, Kellie didn't define her relationship as abusive. She told herself that if she could be someone her husband could respect, then their problems would be solved.
She worked on overcoming Depression and the effects of rape. She observed the women her husband loved and tried to emulate them. She read many self-help books for herself and for couples. She forgave her husband's indiscretions, outbursts of temper, and nastiness. But nothing worked. Her husband's temper continued to flare over minor issues and she could not understand what was so "wrong" with her.
Then one day, Kellie ran across a book by Patricia Evans that opened her eyes. For the first time, Kellie clearly saw that what was wrong in her relationship had nothing to do with her personal issues, but everything to do with her husband's abusive nature. She was abused. She didn't want to believe it, but something had to be done.
"Those of us who lived it will remember and know we are not alone. Those still living with domestic violence will see parts of their own story come to life with a new understanding, education, and awareness. We too are walking miracles who can have a happy ending, a life free of violence." Lisa
About the Author: Kellie, once an abused wife, passionately advocates against domestic violence through her writing and mentoring service. She loves helping women cope with abuse while in the relationship and supporting them as they leave the relationship and begin to heal. Kellie originally wrote the blog "My Abusive Marriage...and what i'm doing in it" during the last year of her abusive marriage as a way to fight against her husband's crazy-making and gaslighting. Her second book, also based on the blog, will release in January 2015 and describes the healing process after leaving the abusive relationship. Additionally, Kellie compiled "Domestic Violence Safety Plan - A comprehensive plan that will help keep you safer whether you stay or leave." After researching the safety plans available from several domestic violence programs across the country, Kellie recommends this Domestic Violence Safety Plan to counselors, crisis line volunteers, nurses and triage workers, domestic violence groups and anyone who regularly talks with victims of domestic violence and abuse. Future planned releases include a novel and several how-to cope with abuse and how-to heal from abuse publications.
