Dr. Wagner's Love Trauma compassionately explores the mighty divide that opens up when divorce or separation happens. His thorough and patient dissection of that divide allows divorcees to recognize the demons that keep us from getting beyond the divorce, the pitfalls of various post-divorce behaviors, and the procedures we can take to move past the pain. His examination of the divorcee's viewpoint works like magic to make us feel we are not alone and indeed, that many people suffer the same kinds of indignities after divorce. But the examples of those who have got beyond it lift our spirits and make us believe surviving Love Trauma is possible.
Chapters include:
- The Fight-Who is the enemy? Putting on the gloves, The Need to Fight, Fighting the Right Fight
- The Furies-dealing with hate, anger, guilt, jealousy, and fear
- The Victory-knowing you've beat your true enemies
- From Loneliness to Aloneness-the essential move
- Wonderment-an ingredient of happiness
- Finding a Home-dealing with substance and alcohol abuse, workaholism, reclusiveness, and promiscuity.
About the Author:
Paul A. Wagner is a Ph.D., University of Missouri. He has taught courses in psychology, business management, philosophy, and education. He has held a number of senior level positions in national academic and scholarly organizations. He has also held positions on a number of Boards of Director in various organizations within the city of Houston and as Vice Chair of the City of Columbia's Human Rights Commission.
He is a specialist in practical and applied ethics and moral theory. He himself has been a divorcee. He also has a long period of dating experiences going back to his class president days in college.
He has written popular pieces on romance in the Austin American Statesman and The Dallas Morning News. He is the author of five books and over 100 publications ranging from philosophy and religion to the business of healthcare, probability, cognition, organizational development, learning theory, and the conditions for being a moral person. Once, as a result of volunteering by pushing a book cart around M.D. Anderson Cancer Center in Houston, he wrote a piece describing the romantic moments some patients experience as they cope with cancer while others realize they have no reliable companion at the end.
He has had the opportunity to avail himself of the resources of a variety of social circles and in each he learned what he could about people's attitude towards marriage, divorce, dating, and responsibilities regarding child-rearing.