It was a fairytale courtship and, as in most cases of domestic abuse, Pam's talented and kind husband didn't show his darker side until they were married for a couple of years. He showered her with love and affection, making her feel like the luckiest girl on earth.
In Knight in Tarnished Armor, Pam invites the reader behind closed doors and drawn curtains and into the broken heart of an abusive marriage. She's honest in laying out the daily struggles of living with someone who used threats, physical harm and mind games to control and make her think she was going crazy. And then he would turn on the charm, act like nothing was wrong, and once again be the loving man she married.
The abuse continued to escalate and there were many nights she was afraid to fall asleep, positive it would be the night he would kill her while she slept.
After several years, she finally got a restraining order to have him removed from their property and filed for divorce. The whole process took years, working its way slowly through the legal system, but everything was finally settled, and she was free of her abuser and anxious to become a voice for other victims.
Knight in Tarnished Armor is an honest, real life, inspiring account of one woman's victorious escape from heartbreaking betrayal and out of the grip of her abusive husband. Included also is encouragement, guidance and a safety plan with a checklist of things to do if you think you may have to flee an abusive relationship.
The freedom Pam felt upon learning her abuser was dead empowered her to dedicate her life to giving encouragement and hope to other victims. She also works with victims' families and friends, to guide them in the most effective ways to help their loved ones. And she's committed to educate and inform the public, to speak out whenever possible as a voice for victims of domestic abuse.
This compelling story provides a window into the victim's thoughts, experiences, and trauma within an abusive relationship. The dreams of what it should collide with the reality of what is, revealing the strength, courage, and faith it takes to respond God's way. Practical ways to move forward through and beyond the experience stirs hope within the reader. The book provides a voice for individuals who suffer abuse from others. FOCUS Ministries will use this book as we minister to victims and families of domestic violence.
