There are many different types of breakups, including those between spouses, lovers, friends, and business partners. The goal of both sides is to end the relationship. Nobody is entirely guilty or entirely innocent. The relationship has failed because of the actions of both sides. Both are guilty of killing what they had, which was a cooperative effort to get something, whatever it was, for their own gratification. Breakups are uniquely unpleasant experiences because they combine all the right elements. This book makes an effort to address that trauma and should assist the reader in recovering, growing, and learning from this experience.
After a year and a half of being apart from my marriage, I started to realize that I was just making the agony and confusion worse and that I wanted to move on with my life.
I want you to know that I am not a social worker, psychologist, or therapist. Although I've had some counseling training, my main education came through working with divorcees in support groups and from going through a protracted separation and eventual divorce. Some of the clients I have worked with over the years took longer to heal from their divorces because they were unwilling or unaware of the tools available to them for development and healing. The purpose of this pamphlet is to assist you in avoiding those errors. The emotional content of our life is shaped by our connections: relationships are linked to feelings of joy, happiness, grief, and rage. Humans are social beings meant to live in communities.
This Book is not only my personal account; rather, it serves as a manual for healing and development in healthy partnerships. Saying, "Even though I wouldn't wish a divorce on my worst enemy, I wouldn't trade anything for what I have learned," is what I want you to be able to say. Additionally, I want you to experience life to the fullest and develop into the person you were meant to be. I realize that the end was actually just the beginning.
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The process of mourning and letting go of a relationship to allow for self-renewal begins with the death of the connection through divorce.
After putting the pieces of a divorce together, one can take advantage of a fresh start to move past the past and build a more fulfilling life. Once you identify self-defeating behavior, you will be willing to accept the past and make changes to it.
