How to Maintain Your Values While Neutralizing the Tricks of Manipulative People, Even If You Don't Have a Mean Bone in Your Body

For as long as you can remember, you've always strived to be nice, honest, and helpful with everyone in your life. It's how you were raised, and it makes you feel good to treat people well.

But then one day you noticed that not everyone plays by the same rules. They consistently get more from you than they give in return. They trick you, play on your emotions, and employ all means necessary to unfairly get more for themselves.

Even your own child has gotten good at the bedtime tantrum for securing more storytime. And at work, it is a similar dynamic. You find yourself getting roped into tasks that no one else at your level ever has to do.

How did things get this way?

First, not all people are manipulative or controlling. Plenty of people want to do their part and cultivate good relationships.

But, there is a significant subset of people that have gotten really good at pushing the right buttons to get you to do what they want you to do, even if it's unfair or against your interest.

It's bitter medicine the first time you realize that people are systematically doing this for their gain at your expense. But the good news is that with a little awareness and a few simple techniques you can stand up for yourself and your rights.

Here is a select sample of what you´ll discover in How to Analyze people - Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People

• Figuring out who's actively manipulating you versus simply asserting their rights, so you don't overreact or continue to be a doormat
• Warning signs to identify manipulators right away
• Recognizing the tactics of manipulation and how to short-circuit their power with countermoves of your own
• Understanding what motivates a manipulator so you can satisfy their needs without giving up your power
• The science of manipulation. Seeing how these employed tactics impact your reality
• Your biggest mistakes: Why not everything is your fault, but some of it might be
• Understanding how manipulation manifests into relationship dynamics
• What it means to become a "hardened target" and how to make yourself less inviting as a victim of manipulation
• Healthy ways to assert your rights so people learn how you want to be treated

Dealing with a manipulative person can be a daunting task. Many people would rather put their head in the sand than try to change a social dynamic where the opposing party seems to have the advantage.

But the truth is that manipulators are used to having their behavior go through unchecked. Simply mixing up your response or challenging them in some way can do wonders. Suddenly they will think twice about how to treat you in the future.