Childhood is a crucial stage in life that plays a pivotal role in how you turn out as an adult. During this period of your life, your parents are the most significant external force present. They ought to provide all the necessary help, emotional support, and guidance through their parenting style.
For many individuals, they face a harsh reality. These are individuals whose parents adopt the wrong parenting style. As one of these individuals, your childhood memories usually cause you pain and suffering when you try recollecting them.
You have memories of your parents abusing you physically, mentally, and verbally. Other memories remind you of how they made sure to control your life and ensured you felt pain for any attempt to deviate from their rules. What's more, they find a way to play the victim and get you to feel guilty for your actions.
Your mind is continually replaying these memories, and this is causing more pain in your life. As an adult, you are haunted by what they said and what they did.
As your way of dealing with this trauma, you may choose to limit the interaction with your parents or cut them off completely. The constant fear of your parents controlling your life or judging you makes it impossible for you to give them the full details about yourself. You opt to withhold some of the crucial details of your life, and you end up feeling bad about yourself or guilty about it.
This constant fear of being judged or making mistakes causes you to feel insecure. In dealing with authority, such as your boss at work, you see your parents in them, and this terrifies you. These are scars that are preventing you from making any form of positive progress in life.
Let go? Live in the moment? Despite being what you want to do most, these actions are not that easy. You also develop hopelessness due to internal contradictions plaguing you.
This book will help you in dealing with these issues. Herein, you will find information regarding the proper ways to handle a toxic parent. It doesn't matter if you're part of their life as a caretaker or you live with them.
Regarding the childhood wounds they inflicted, you need ways to heal, and I'll help you out. The healing process is crucial if you've lost your parents or live miles apart from them.
My name is Alfie D. Foster. I don't hold any fancy titles like being a therapist or having a Ph.D. at the end of my name. I was working as a graphic designer before choosing a path to becoming a full-time consultant on trauma healing.
So, what makes me an expert on toxic parenting?
One of reasons is the fact that narcissistic parents raised me. In becoming the man I am today, dealing with my parents and overcoming the trauma from my childhood was a vital part of the journey. I tried a lot of things, and despite not getting results from most, I learned a lot.
In visiting therapists, I found out they didn't have toxic parents growing up. This made it difficult for me to connect with these therapists. Most of these therapists kept repeating the same statement: "Let go of the past." But if that was something I could do with ease; I wouldn't be seeking the help of a therapist in the first place.
The solution to my problems started becoming apparent when I decided to take charge of my life. One of the steps I took was gaining a better understanding of toxic parents. With this understanding, I was able to find an escape from the trauma and grip they had on me.
After conquering my challenges, I reached out to friends who were in similar situations. By helping those close to me, I gained the confidence I needed to help others. I didn't need to do any form of advertising...(keep reading by clicking the book preview)
