I have often asked this question: "What does it mean to be a woman?". When I was growing up in a predominant female environment - mother and sisters. When I got married and Maiya and I had three daughters, the question did not disappear anywhere. On the contrary, it has become even more relevant.
I was looking for answers, of course, not out of idle curiosity. It is important for me to unlock the potential of a woman, both small and adult, so that she feels happy. Humanity is taking steps in this direction. But the position of women in society still leaves much to be desired, and varies greatly depending on the region of residence.
In my country, for example, feminist books are not popular. Especially among the male audience. But I have read them and I continue to read them. Such as ""Vagina Monologues" Eva Ensler, "As a Woman Wants" Emily Nagoski. I am inspired by artists Georgia O'Keeffe and Louise Bourgeois. All this influences the formation of my creativity, the understanding of the female worldview and the development of my empathy.
I think that men still have a lot to do. Yes, the shameful ban on women engaging in art and science is gone. Yes, more and more women occupy high positions in politics and business. It must be admitted that in the modern world the social status of women is vulnerable to a much lesser extent. But a lot of work (and, importantly, more subtle) lies beyond the laws and institutions. I'm talking about the sphere of feelings and desires of every woman, her vulnerability is too often given pain. And the cure here is not the reforms of society, but the attention from the partner.
Meanwhile, men dictate their own rules of the game based on their own desires. That's why they have to ask themselves, "What does it mean to be a woman?". Which raises other questions. What does she feel? What does she dream about? How to give her more love? I know from my own experience how important it is for a woman to be supported by a man - husband, father, son, friend.
In this book I have collected my drawings and texts, which were the result of my observations and reflections on female nature. I even found a way to tell the stories of the heroines from their own face. This voice may seem somewhat naive. And, perhaps, this does not always coincide with what women really feel. Well, yes, because this is an attempt by a man to take the place of a woman. Let it be not very skillful, but still an attempt.
Oleg Khe
Dedicated to beloved women. First of all, to mother Lidiya, wife Maiya, daughters Yana, Uma and Yeva.