You would think that having been previously married it would be easier getting remarried. After all you know what you want and what you don't want in the next spouse. Once you find the one you think is an excellent candidate, do you have a plan for developing that new relationship? Dating by design is a continuation of my book The Meeting Room which talks about on-line dating. Now how do you go about the process of developing a relationship that will make for a solid marriage? This process is not as easy as it seems. You can get to know a person so well in the first four months that you think you are ready for marriage. However, you have only begun. What do you need to move that relationship to a point of not just knowing them but becoming best friends? Remarriage still calls for establishing terms of your relationship. Do you really know what love is, and how to work out disagreements? Because sex was so much a part of the previous marriage, what part does it play in your courting time? How can sex short circuit the building of your relationship? How do you make your new relationship unique in your interests and how you live life? Dating by Design is a book to help recognize some of the issues needed to address in a dating relationship and go at it in an intentional manner.
About the Author: James Olah is a retired pastor and has long had an interest in helping people through the complex times of life. He faced some very difficult times in his life that led him to being single twice. His first wife died unexpectedly after 43 years. His second wife divorced him after 16 months. Both were the cause of great hurt to him. Instead of remaining single he chose to seek remarriage. After both losses he decided to use the internet as a means of meeting a person with whom to develop a relationship and then marry. Meeting the right person online is a process that can be very stressful and hurtful at times. Many leave dating sites out of frustration because they can't find a person of the character they want for a mate. However, many do find the right person and that brings us to another concern. How do you go about developing a meaningful relationship? I not only set up standards to guide my search for the kind of woman I wanted to meet, but also in how I was going to develop a meaningful relationship that gave us a solid foundation. What started out as a personal plan of developing a relationship actually turned into this book. Not everything is about me, but the guidelines that are presented are what I established for myself. I added a narrative with Mike and Lisa to present the message. I have written four other books on relationship issues and they fit nicely with this book. The first is the companion to this book called: "The Meeting Room: On-line Dating for Beginners." The next book actually could be called a companion book to this one: "Getting to Know You." A list of 300 questions, plus eight articles to help the couple get to better know each other. The last two deal with issues for married couples. "The dynamics of Communication and Sex" talks about how these two topics inter-relate. It helps each to understand why their need is so important in their life. The last book in this series is "What is the Tone of Your Communication?" Many arguments start, not because of what one says, but the tone with which one speaks. This book will help you understand the importance of how we use tone of voice in our relationship communication.