Codependency is one of those words that sound more harmless than it is. On the face of it, it sounds normal and healthy to be mutually "dependent" with other people, doesn't it? This might explain why people frequently use this term incorrectly, putting the label on any relationship that looks enmeshed, unbalanced or unhappy.
Co-dependency is an emotional condition that exhibits largely as one's behavioral incapability to adjust their relationship with people in healthy, mutually beneficial ways. A codependent partner can be described as having a relationship with addiction. They form and work hard to keep relationships that are too demanding of them emotionally, mentally, and even physically -the relations could ultimately be abusive and destructive on them.
The codependent wants to keep their irresponsive unconcerned partner, whose attention is actually distracted by or focused on other things outside their partnership. The partner normally either has a form of addiction like alcohol or other substances or exhibits chronic or mental illness or generally cannot function in their family space as is expected of them. These mannerisms lead to a dysfunctional family in which the members consequently suffer from fear, anger, pain, or even humiliation that is either constantly ignored or denied.
The indifferent partner who is the real cause of concern in the home is addicted to alcohol, drugs, work, food, relationship, gambling or sex, and there will manifest physical, emotional and sexual abuse, pronounced or mild, and an unusual mental state that is chronic or persistent physical illness which could be taken for reason for need of help and rescue.
The codependent gets used to doing all the work all the while single-handedly and does not realize a problem exists. So, they do not ever get to talk about or confront the problems. They never perceive them as such or lack the audacity to confront their issues. Emotions are suppressed and needs are disregarded - forcing them to lead a life of survival. They normalize behaviors of denial, negligence, and even intense emotional avoidance, and become detached - never talking or touching or confronting or feeling or trusting each other anymore. Their identity and emotional involvement stop.
This book covers the following topics:
- What is Codependency
- Signs of Codependency
- Causes of codependency
- The Nature of Codependency
- Improving Empathy
- What is Shame
- Conquering Codependency
- Detaching from Codependent Influences
- Acceptance & Forgiveness
- Restoring Self-Esteem
- Building excellent relationships
- Self-Care
- Establishing Healthy Relationships
...And much more
Codependency is largely learned. This means, its origins can be traced into one's childhood or behavioral adjustments at a certain point in their early years of maturity. Thus, some people are more vulnerable to codependency in their adulthood than others. But when one can trace their way into this trait, then they can subsequently tread more intentionally and prudently with the view to defeat it over time.
For the majority of people, codependency roots from their upbringing, especially when they still were children. Children are easily influenced. They lack cognitive abilities and experience to recognize that they are witnessing or living in unhealthy relationships from or with that their parents. To them, parents are always right, speak the truth, teach good values, and have sufficient skills to lead and relate.
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