Do you find it difficult to maintain a successful romantic relationship?
Do you see the same behaviour patterns in yourself emerging in your relationships, time and time again? Are you constantly worried that everything will end in heartbreak?
Is it possible to predict the likelihood of the success or failure of a relationship in advance?
Whether we are aware of it or not, our childhood experiences play a huge role in forming the kind of people that we become. The relationships that we have had as children with our parents, or other primary caregivers, have a profound effect on how we react to any given situation in our lives; and, how we interact with the people around us.
As small children, we instinctively respond to the kind of love and support offered by our parents or guardians. While a strong bond with our primary caregiver is fundamental to our development in these early years, any difficulties arising from this attachment can lead to problems with relationships and self-image in later life.
In fact, unworked or incorrect dysfunctional attachment models can lead us to make poor emotional choices, or enter into dysfunctional and unstable relationships that may be characterised by violence, oppression or submission. Human relationships can give rise to the constant presence of a fear of abandonment, associated with control behaviours, a continuous search for reassurance, emotional hypervigilance and sometimes even emotional blackmail.
Whether you like it or not, attachment styles inevitably shape intimate relationships between people.
Knowing what they are and managing them efficiently guarantees you a positive and stable outlook on your relationships for life.
This book is suggested reading if your relationship is characterized by:
- Dissatisfaction and/or high levels of conflict.
- Obsessiveness, intrusiveness, jealousy and distrust.
- A strong desire for fusion and concern about rejection and abandonment.
- Interpersonal distance.
- A low level of emotional involvement.
- Problems with intimacy, and an inability to enjoy or flourish within sexual relationships.
Don't worry if you identify with all or any of these issues. The patterns and beliefs we develop as children, although often deeply rooted in our psyche, can be unlearned and replaced with positive beliefs and approaches that allow you to take a more constructive path through life.
If, however, you don't address such issues, then you will carry their negative influence with you, leading to the unwelcome and repetitive situations that you have become familiar with.
Fortunately, David Lawson, based on the work of his predecessors, has developed a book with which he has helped many people to recognise their role in early childhood relationships, and then to use this recognition to project the future success of their romantic or intimate relationships.
So, even if your emotional life and its impact on your relationships is not as you would like it to be, it is possible to assess, comprehend and eventually work to OVERCOME your situation.
Understanding how to release attachment issues is one of the most satisfying and valuable things you can do for yourself. You will open the doors to a greater sense of self-worth, successful friendships, strong family ties and lasting and loving romantic relationships.
If you are tired of living a life filled with complicated and painful relationships and would like to learn how to cultivate them to be safe and healthy places instead, then scroll up and click on the 'Buy Now' button!
