Most people stereotype anger by assuming that it always results in shouting, slamming fists, throwing things, road rage, or domestic violence. However, anger is not that one-dimensional.
Have you ever acted on your anger explosively or violently, maybe in reaction to another person's unkind actions?
Or maybe you are the type of person to hold everything in and then resent others through passive-aggressive behavior, or by being overly critical?
Regardless, you are acting on your anger.
It is okay to feel angry but to act on your anger like this is unacceptable.
Expressed anger only propagates and creates more anger - this is how professionally angry TV and radio commentators influence our society.
This is not productive; it is better to not have anger created in the first place.
However, that is not always feasible.
And this is where anger management comes in... to dictate how you direct your anger.
You cannot control the words or actions of others but you can control your actions, your words, and your reactions.
Unless you choose to exert your anger through constructive assertiveness over destructive aggression, you'll only propagate more anger - some of which will be directed back at you.
But to do this, you need to dig deep.
Many times your current anger or outburst of anger is not due to what is right in front of you at that moment but to unresolved issues from your past.
This is a bundle of 3 books to help you combat your anger issues as a busy, productive adult:
- Anger Management: Control Anger & Stop Hurting the One Person that Matters Most - You
- Declutter: Free Your Mind from Mental Clutter
- Mindfulness for Beginners: How Present Living Can Change Your Life