Are you still struggling with emotionally immature parents?
Do the people who should have loved and protected you continue to manipulate you instead of treating you with respect and love?
Do you often feel confused or insecure because of your parents' unpredictable reactions?
Are you struggling every day to repair the damage that they caused?
Emotionally immature parents are adults who have difficulty managing their emotions and providing a stable and reliable supportive environment for their children. These parents may have a poor understanding of their children's needs and may exhibit manipulative, controlling and unaccountable behaviours.
And while it's easy to normalise behaviour that we have grown up with, dealing with an emotionally immature parent can be frustrating, demoralising and leave us unable to deal with our own emotions.
Unable to deal with their emotions, parents like this tend to sweep things under the carpet or blame other people.
I recommend reading this book if you recognise at least one of the following traits in your parents:
- They do not validate your feelings, or give them room to emerge.
- They are very rigid and resolute and become aggressive to new ideas.
- Overreactions even to small things.
- They have low-stress tolerance and have trouble admitting mistakes.
- They are self-preoccupied and egocentric.
- They always have to be right.
- They blame you for their flaws or mistakes.
- They do not take responsibility for their actions.
- They are only concerned about your physical needs and not your emotional needs.
- They have the ability to make you lose your mind and drain all your energy.
- Denial of reality, emotional manipulation and gaslighting by making you feel crazy.
These are just some of the most common signs. In each family they may change or combine with each other.
You can may appear happy but feel lonely, are highly-strung, anxious and controlling.
As an adult, you could now experience:
- Constant feelings of betrayal, anger, loneliness or abandonment.
- Guilt when you are happy.
- Confusion due to your parents' unpredictable and inconsistent reactions.
- Embarrassment about what happened to you and what others might think about it.
- A feeling that you are trapped in the relationship with them, with no way out.
Adult children of immature parents always recognise that something is wrong, but overlook the devastating long-term effects it can cause in them.
Can this painful legacy be stopped?
Fortunately, there are methods in this manual to identify and interrupt dysfunctional patterns and cultivate new ones that are helpful and tailored to you. It is important to do this for yourself, your loved ones and ultimately your children.
Breathe deeply, release that knot in your stomach, and read it now!
